Speaker 1 (00:01):
Best Bits of the Week with Morgan listener Q and A.
All right, Aby, I did say these were kind of hard,
but I was lying. They're not crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I can't take that right now.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
No, no, no, we're good.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
We're good. Jason is starting us off. How do we
like to spend New Year's Eve? Oh?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
So well, I usually like to go out and do
something fun, like a rooftop you know whatever, and you
can do they have fireworks, Nashville has fireworks on they
do Okay, so not being crazy, no, because I did
that one year, yes before COVID.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, we have the biggest fireworks display in the country. Okay,
maybe it's also for July, but we have something the
biggest fire work is way at some point in the year.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
So rooftop bar. Yes. I either love doing that or
the complete opposite and just staying home and being like
with friends. So if I'm back in Wichita, I'll most
likely do that because all my friends back home and
I'm really close to them and they're all married and stuff,
so we all get together and it's really fun.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
So but if you're here, you're gonna be a big
party animal.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Probably, Yeah, do something fun, but it also gets crazy.
So probably not. I don't know if I want to
do downtown because it gets wild.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think I've actually
spent New Years You've Downtown ever. I only went to
the New Years You've Bashed with my family one time. Really,
we didn't go to like Broadway. We just went to
the park to do the concert.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Oh my gosh. Yeah, So that's why if you were
going to do that, I would definitely just like a rooftop,
you have to probably pay a cover and it's probably
a lot, but yeah, it's better than just being on
the streets.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
You're like, you don't be a cover, you're on the street.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I'm just saying I've done both. I usually do the
street because it's cheaper.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
The best part is, like, I know what you're talking about,
because like in Broadway, you can celebrate.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
On the streetway on the street of Broadway.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
It's like if you do a cover, you're gonna be
on the street.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Which is also fun too, But just be prepared to
We have a lot of people like all over.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
That is true. That is true. I'm a polar opposite.
I think in my e it's very overrated and I
don't like celebrating it. Really, I haven't let down so
many years. I think I get so amped up for it,
and like you get sparkly dressed and you get really excited,
and then every time I'm like, dang, was that really
worth it? Because I don't feel like it was.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
I'm gonna say, if you don't have a New Year's kiss,
it's not fun like that when I get let down.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Kabby, thank you, thank you for that. That's been me.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Like my whole life.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
I mean, I'm pretty sure that the years I've not
had one, So thanks Dame.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
I'm pretty sure I've taken shots literally when the ring
comes in. Cool, cool, cool. There was logic behind my
eyes with that.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Oh yeah, that is because you're looking around everybody else.
So that's fair that I've I've done that.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
But I will say, like, it's just very often that
you spend so much money, and I'm like, I don't know.
If I I do love house parties with people I know.
I've been house parties where I don't know a lot
of people also not fun. I like, if it's a
house party of like people I know, and it's like
a good time and you're just all hanging out. I
would love that, but no, everything else is kind of
meh to me.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I can see that.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Apparently it's because I don't GISs anybody.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
No you no, because I've been there, and that's when
it's been. My biggest letdown of New Year's Eve is
when I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
You just rejected on me. Cool, and now it's all
I'm thinking about. Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Let's get how do I dig my way out of this?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I'm just giving you our time. Do we still hang
with Morgan one in Hillary?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (03:49):
My gosh? Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I miss Hillary a lot because I worked with her,
you know when I first started. Yeah, and I miss
her so much. I never I didn't work with Morgan
one on the show.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, we've tried to buy Abby to something. She doesn't
show up.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
It's true, that is true.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Yeah, so we have. Yes, I do hang out with
Morgan and Hillary a lot. This is from Karina. There's
still some of my really good friends and Abby has
been invited.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I have been invited, But is that friends giving?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Friends giving? Yeah? We did have that. You were on
a hot date yep, that now everybody knows about.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
And I wish I could hang out with him more.
But I love running into them. It's random events. I
do run into Hillary a lot, but I need to
start making a point to hang out more. You're always invited, Abby,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Yes, but yeah that was from Karina. Okay, Well we've
got Daniel who wants to know if Lunchbox is a
normal cool guy when he is not on the microphone.
I'll let you go first.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Nope, I'm just kidding. That's a hard No. No, I'm
just kidding. I think he's funny and I don't even
know how to describe him, like he just tries to.
He doesn't make sense to me. I don't understand him.
He does this thing now where he's always like anytime
I do anything or say anything, he goes noted like
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he's noting it. For like, prep oh he is he If.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
He's saying that, I'm just telling you he is. And
it will come back five months, could come back two years.
That crap is happening to me multiple times. I'm like,
where the frick did this come from?
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Yes, he's literally he really is like noting it.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Yeah, he has a great memory. Unfortunately for all of us.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
Do you think he's cool? I still can figure out.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
He for me, is like my older brother, and I
treat him as such, so like any of our interactions
are very sibling like, like if I were to have
had a brother, that is how I would have acted
with him. We give each other crap all the time,
and we also have to take crap from each other.
And I also get mad at him, Like there are
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times when he is too much for me, and I
will tell him, I'm like I've had enough today. Like
sometimes he'll come up to me asking him like not today,
not today.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
And he doesn't get offended.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
No, he doesn't. He just walks away. He's like, yep,
not gonna touch that. So it's Yeah, he is as
loud and obnoxious as you would think he is, and
he is who he is on the microphone. I mean,
that's not indifferent. But he's also not a horrible person.
He just has very strong opinions about everything. M but
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he's not a jerk about him in real life. Yeah,
Like he feels that way, but he won't like, you know,
kill you over the head with it.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
Yeah, And he doesn't like come out to me like
if I'm sitting at my desk, he's not like, yeah,
you're terrible at singing like he really only does that
on the mic, and then he just kind of we
don't even talk about it. It's not like I go
up to him and I'm like, so did you like that?
Or you know, ask him.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Does he does save insults for the air?
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I have noticed he does, and he does. Mean, he
just saves him to be public.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Yeah, he's been weird, like very nice and I don't
know what's happening.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Oh, something's coming, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
Something that's Yeah. When he's nice, you know something is
on the way. Yeah, He's like, how are you doing today?
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Abby?
Speaker 2 (07:14):
I'm like what. Like, I'm like He's like, I'm literally
just saying hi. I'm like, no, something is up and
he's like noted. I'm like what, Yes, it's so weird.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
So all that to say, he is the same person
you hear on air, and we just I mean, for
me particularly, I treat him like a brother. What he does,
how he does, he's obnoxious. I still love him. He's
still great to me, but he's also turn sometimes about
other things. Well.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
People are always like, why don't you defend yourself like
on air or whatever, And I'm like, because I had
an older brother growing up and so I learned, like
my parents are always like just ignore him because they he
wants to make you mad and he wants you to
react and then he loves it.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Oh yeah, so I had to learn you. I will
tell you what the response is when you do that,
because I have not on air, but like we've gotten
into it outside of again, it's like sibling back and forth.
And when he just keeps coming at me, I'm really
patient until you keep throwing something at me like ten
times over the same thing. I will get to a
point where I'm like, I am gonna punch you in
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the face. And he's seen that before and he loves it.
I mean like he'll just keep coming at you, so
it is right to ignore it. But it's also fun
to defeat him, so it is.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah, But I'm just like I can't win against him
because he just has never runs out of things to say,
Like he will just always have another angle, you.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Know, and it's a good thing, like he had he
has witty comebacks. I'll give him that. Yes, I will
give him that.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Oh, he is never at a loss for words. I
wish he could give some of that to me because
sometimes i I'm like, yes, especially during karaoke.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
He's like the king of that right, we're still holding on.
I'm still yes. Okay, we gotta let that one.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Going in the new year. That's my resolution. Let it go.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
You have like six ok We're gonna take a quick break.
We have some more questions going on, all right. Listener,
Lauren wants to know if we've ever had any run
ins in Wichita together.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Well, you usually stay on your side.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
We're back on the side. I know. Sorry, Abby and
I are on have two different college teams. We're on
two different sides in Wichita. Do you come to the
enemies we are? Yeah? I do come to the east
sometimes for a restaurant, sometimes to see things over there.
There's there was for a long time more stuff on
the East side, which SAA on the west side has
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gotten a lot more things, especially downtown too, really kind
of like the middle ground. So yes, I stay over
there more now. But it used to be that we
got to East a lot. But you never came to
our side. I know how you feel. It's not bougie
enough pretty every time.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
I just want to go back to my side, please.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
That is true. But we did have a really funny
thing happened, Yes, the other day. So I get a
text from my mom and she's like, she's getting her
hair done at the hair salon, and she's like, I
am in Dawn's chair. That's a girl who does her
hair getting my hair done. And Abby's mom is in
Jenny's chair. It's another girl at the salon, and Jenny
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introduced us. Jenny told me she also used to have
Francy do her hair.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Small world, Oh my gosh, because I had Francy do
my hair when I was a kid.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Yep, and mine too, Like what so? Abby and I
had the same hairstylist our entire lives and our moms
still go to the same hair salon, different stylists now
because the one that they we had had retired and
so the ones that are in there now are the
ones that do their hair.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
What is the what are the odds of that?
Speaker 1 (10:47):
So wild? And all this time later too, like and
I had messaged Abby like cinema screen child, was like,
how do we never like run into each other? And
there are points she was like, we probably had, we
just didn't know each other.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Yeah, you were probably like walking out, you held the
door for me for your appointment, I'm walking in.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
I really appreciate that. Yeah, you assumed that I had
held the door.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
I think this probably was a moment in the past,
Like I don't know how we couldn't have it, But
what are the odds this one salon? Like how did
they a lot? Yes? How did they both know Francy
because she's the one that was like the owner of it,
and then I think she sold it to Jenny and yeah, gone, yeah, which,
Oh my gosh, Like did you get your hair done there?
Like for homecoming and stuff?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Oh? Yeah, they did, like my hair for both my
older sister's weddings. They did all my upduce for prom
when updus were a thing. And then yeah, I mean
I even still went to them when I was in college,
Like I'd go back home and get my hair done.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Oh my gosh, I can't. I can't believe. You don't
go there, now, do you?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
No? No, Now, I.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Couldn't hear and you go home?
Speaker 1 (11:44):
Yeah you gage I've had roots by my ears. Yeah,
Oh my.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Gosh, it's too wild to me. I couldn't believe it.
I was like, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Which dot is a small world. So no, we never
had any run ins us personally, even we go home
and visit, like we're in like totally different areas of town.
And like I said, Abby doesn't think my area of
town is good enough for her, so we really don't
have any run in.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I do like one restaurant on your side, which one
It's called Barnards.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Barnards is that the big barn.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
It used to be, but then it moved. Now it's
closer to May's.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh, but it's not in a barn anymore.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
No, they sold that. Now it's a car wash. That
makes me sad. But it was a barn. And they
have like the best roast beef sandwiches. And I know
you don't, so you probably don't go there that much.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
I was gonna say, I don't think I've ever eaten there.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
It's so good. So but I do remember the barn,
you do, Okay, So that's all I got, though, I'll
be going there at Christmas, so I'll be on your side.
I'll let you know on Christmas when I'm home and
get a bruk beef.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Sandwich on Christmas, so.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
You wild they're gonna be close.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I met when I'm home for Christmas, I'm gonna make
my way over to your side.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Okay, well, maybe we can meet up at the barn you're.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
It's spelled like b a r r ds barnards. It's
a weird spelling that is kind of like barnyards, barnyards.
There's that country accident here it goes that roasty sandwich barnards.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Where are some places that you'd love to visit that
you've never been before? From Kansas? Oh?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
I thought you were saying.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
In Kansas, not in Kansas.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Oh okay, I was Are you saying here anywhere?
Speaker 1 (13:25):
What are some places you'd love to visit that you've
never gotten to go before?
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Sorry about that, you were really focused on completely just
messed all of that up. Sorry, Kansas. I thought we
were still on Kansas.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Kansas. I mean, it can be Kansas if you want to.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
But her name's kandas like there's anything in Kansas. I've
been to everything I want to see in Kansas.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Let's see the flo Hills are cool? Okay?
Speaker 2 (13:47):
You know what? I want to go to a Times
Square again, like back to New York around Christmas. That's
what I want to do. See the Christmas tree. That's
a good one in Rockefeller Center.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I want to do that when I'm dating somebody. I
want to go with somebody because I feel like that
would be like my because I love Christmas and I
love love and then for them to combine in like
New York City and Christmas would be magical.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
That'd be very romantic.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
I also want to go to the Biltmore.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
That's it. It's you. Is it like?
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Wait, Lashville, North Carolina?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
There's built more estates? Yes, Okay, yeah, I was saying something.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Else that would be fun around Christmas too.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That would be cool. Any time.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Have you ever been to Dollar There's so many things
I want to do now.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
Like you're making a check on your phone and on
the phone Dollywood.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
I've never been, have you.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
Uh, we didn't go to Dollywood specifically, but we did
go to Gallenburg and I love Gallenburg. Okay, So I
do think it'd be cool and I've heard good things
about it.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Okay, you go.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I don't know if you have any more yelling. It's okay.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
I have coffee right now and I'm a little hyped up.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
You can yell some more things at me. I just did.
I was just ready in case they were coming to
like receive them.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Grand Canyon because I tried to go one time and
we were going through Sedona and there was too much snow.
We couldn't make it through. I was so sad because
we had our whole vacation planned around going to the
Grand Canyon.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
That is a snow bummer. That's also wild. I didn't
I don't know that it snows all that often out there.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Yeah, that's why it was not meant to be. I'm
kind of bummed today.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
So definitely that Okay, the Grand Canyon is really cool.
I just visited for the first time this year, which
to the North Rim, which is like the hardest to
get to and the furthest let me tell you, is
so far away from everything if you do go to one.
That's why I think a lot of people go to
the South Entrance, which is I think the most popular
one that are like the Northeast entrance or something, but
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definitely not the North one. But it was worth every moment.
Now you love it. Yeah, it's like a screensaver, screen saver.
Everything out west looks like screensaver. Honestly.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
Oh yeah, that's my picture perfect.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Yes, that's a good one. I mean I have a
lot like there's a lot of I want to visit
every state, and I want to visit every continent. Those
are like my goals. I don't know that I'm ever
going to accomplish going to every country, but the goals
that I hope to accomplish before I die is visiting
every state and every continent. And I mean, I'd love
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to travel abroad. I think I'm just this is hard.
I don't really like to leave Remy and Hazel all
that often, at least not for those long stints. And
if I go foreign, I want to go there for
a while, and that's also hard with work. That is Yeah,
Like if I go to Europe, I want to go
back back. I want to see everything along there. I
would fly back and then go back again. I know
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sounds very not financially sore of me.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
No it doesn't.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
So I think I'm kind of waiting on that. Eventually,
I'll probably not so, but I'd love to go to Italy,
love to go to Greece, Australia, go uh scuba diving
in the Great Barrier reef Oh my goings. Yeah, yeah,
it's gone.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Oh that's true. I only said something to you completely.
You know, there's the world it's the whole world out there, Abby,
New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yeah yeah, oh yeah. On the country you go straight
north and then now I just went back. Okay, we'll
be back. We're gonna come back. We We're gonna answer
some dating questions for somebody. Okay, okay, this is a
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three part question.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
What the three parts?
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Listen? She's got a lot of questions that she would
like to ask, and since she went to the effort
of putting three parts in, I think we should ask it.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
And I actually really do like that.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
This is from Alyssa, and she's based on these questions.
She's clearly also dating right now too, so she wants
to ask them dating questions. How do we feel getting
ready for dates? Like when we're the process of getting
ready about to go on a date.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Are you kidding me? I have a white cloth in
my hand as I am putting on makeup.
Speaker 1 (18:06):
I get nervous. You like, like a first day drink?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Oh my yeah, just to calm my nerves.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
Maybe that's why you talk a lot on the dates.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Abby, Yep, yep, so I've learned that. Huh you put
the two I did get I was like, oh, Abby,
that's why you're blurting everything out because you're feeling loose now,
like you don't need to be nervous.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
Okay, So with this new guy that you're dating, did
you have a white cloth before the first day? Yes,
I did you learn it you didn't care?
Speaker 2 (18:34):
Sure, but I was very aware this time to make
sure I'm not like talking too much. I did like
more like listen and ask questions. Okay, because I am
good at listening.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I do like you're a great listener. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I would rather listen almost than talk about myself. So, yeah,
I was silly, man.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
They're just making it come out of you.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Yeah. Well, I know I've gotten a lot better than
how I used to be, but I mean I still
get nervous for you.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Know, I did used to also be similar, and I
still get butterflies, like I'll get a little like like
it excited butterflies, like is this going to be somebody
that's important to me? But somebody said something and now
I don't know where I saw it and where it
came from. But now that I've heard it, I can't
ever look at dates differently. They said, stop thinking about
how they feel about you. How do you feel about them?
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That's what matters. It's not do they like me, it's
do I like them? And that changed my whole perspective
of dating instead of it being like, I'm so nervous.
I have to be the perfect person and they they
got to like me the way and I gotta sit
tall and not act in the way that I am.
And I'm like, no, I need to go on these
days and be the person that I am, because if
I'm trying to be somebody that I'm not, then all
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it's going to end up in is disaster for both
of us. So if I don't like them and they
don't like me, then it's not supposed to work out.
But if they do, for all the quirks that I
have and all they I mean literally this first day
that I just went on with a guy, I ended
up sitting the whole time like cross legged, and about
an hour and a half of a date, he was like,
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you've been sitting cross legged the whole time. I was like, yeah, oh,
I'm sorry, It's just like natural for me, and he
was like, no, I love it, it's great. And I
just like, I was so into being myself that I
couldn't even like turn it off if I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
That's awesome.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah, so that that quote kind of changed the way
I just see things now.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
M Well, I also learned to start doing first dates
coffee dates. I just feel like it's a lot less
pressure and I'm not having a white claw in the afternoon.
You know, I'm going to get coffee. That's so, and
then you don't have to get all like dressed up.
I feel like when you go on an evening date,
you feel like, if you're going to dinner, you want
to get all dressed up and do your hair and everything.
And when I was doing first dates, I would go
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like from work, so I would just have my work
outfit on. You know, I wasn't all dressed up, and
it was just more casual and it was a lot
less pressure.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
So yeah, that's good. Less pressure is always good.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
M Yeah, whatever you can find. It's just like the
most casual, chill situation that you're comfortable in. I feel
like that like makes for the best first date situation
and you should shouldn't be nervous. It's really when you
think about it, I was putting so much pressure on
a first date. It's the one hour conversation and you
know it's.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Or for you four hours?
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Yeah, yeah, but when I went through the little phase
where I was doing only an hour, Hey, there's.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
No shape from me, okay, because like I have long dates.
It's all it's all matter. There's some dates I've been
on it and thirty minutes I'm like, I gotta get
out of here. There's some dates I've been on it's
like four or five hours because it's a great conversation.
I'm having a good time.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Exactly, Why would you It doesn't make sense if you're
not Why would you leave? You're already both there. Why
would you be like, oh wait, I gotta cut this
off in an hour. We'll beat again next week for
another hour at a time. Yeah, when you could just
do four.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Five, six hours, seven, keep going? Okay, speaking of that,
are we going at keeping conversations going on a date?
You know. I don't know if this is a good
tip or not, but I have really leaned into because
it helps me in two scenarios. I treat them almost
as interviews on the first day, where I am gathering
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a whole lot of information about this person and a
lot of not a lot of like deal breakers, but
a lot of things that are important for me to
know very quickly, like who they are as a person,
how they treat people, how are they treating the server.
Just a lot of interactions that happen, and so I
treat it as I'm gathering a lot of information. So
I'll typically ask a lot of questions and I turn
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the tables off of me. But it also allows me
to see are they able to turn the tables back
on me? Are they able to see that they're talking
about themselves a lot? Are they able to want to
be engaged in a conversation that both of us are
able to talk in. So I kind of treat it
going into it like an interview and then it turns.
But it's not like an interview where I'm like, tell
me your mom's maiden name, where were you born in?
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What hospital? The wrong? Like, No, it's more it's just
like a it's a very casual interview, but it's an
interview nonetheless, because you have to retain a lot of
that information and you have to pay very close attention
to what they're saying. First dates really do tell you
a lot about somebody.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
M they do.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Yeah, So that's kind of how I treat like conversations
on a first date and as it goes on they
get more and more casual and sometimes more serious. But
it's just kind of how I go into a first date.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Mm hmm. Well, I think like with mine, the first
date with the guy I was talking to and why
or that I'm dating now is why it lasted so long.
It's because the conversation was so easy. I think he's
really good at conversation and we're just good at like
bouncing back at each other because I have been on
dates and you're just like it's like pulling teeth trying
to get anything out of them, you know, or you
just feel like you're asking every single question. It's just
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like how was work today? And they're just kind of like, well, good,
not too bad? What about you? And it's just it's
just questions. It's like, no, we need to be it
needs to be more exciting. Like I'm like, so, who's
your sports team? Like who? And they're just like I
don't really care, and I'm like, okay, we're not getting anywhere.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
You know. It's just, hey, you have to be opinionated
about things. Yes, it doesn't mean you have to be
like a controversial opinion person, but having an opinion about
things is a good thing and.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Show who you are.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Yeah, Like, it's good to like things, it's good to
dislike things. It means you're human. So yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I don't like the nonchalant I know like and I
feel like that shows you a lot. If the conversation
is really hard on the first date, like you gotta think,
is it even gonna get I mean, but they're probably nervous.
You're both nervous, so it's not gonna be completely just
like perfect.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
But it should it should flow if it's just comfortable. Yes,
I went on a first date with a guy. This
is this is funny. I'm pretty sure I talked about
food the entire day because he would not talk about anything,
like I just kept talking about different places I loved
in town because he wouldn't. He he was not offering
anything to the conversation. And that was like the one
thing we connected on. And so I'm pretty sure this
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guy thought that all I did was eat, like that's
how I lived my life, because I mean I loved there.
I was like, I'm not going out on the secondate
and he off there and we never talked to each
other again. It was fine. But like I just was like,
I don't think he realized that that was the only
thing he gave me to grasp onto. And so he's
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sitting there like, dang, the girl really good and I'm like,
oh my god, this guy doesn't talk about anything right,
because it's so funny.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
You want to talk about something you're comfortable with or
like your hobbies and stuff, but it's like, Okay, we
want to go move on to something else now, right,
and you've just been stuck on food.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Yeah, so yeah, there are two solid tips. Maybe that's
those help with conversation going on a date.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Or was I to treat it right because I think
it is hard? And another thing I want to ask you, like,
because I've talked to some like I have a guy
friend that always helps me like dating advice. You know.
He always just kind of tells me because it's good
to bounce off of your guy friends too.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Is that lunchbox that right?
Speaker 2 (25:53):
It is not lunch absolutely Now, I think he would
give good advice, though I haven't tested that though, because
I know what he's gonna use with the.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
He's not he is the extreme of the advice. But yes,
he does have some good dating advice, not that suff
that he talks about on ar but yes.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
H yeah. So I was asking him and he was like, oh,
you need to be asking like deep questions on the
first date, like you know, where do you see yourself
in ten years? And like what is the most I
don't I'm not good at examples. But they were not
just like easy conversation back and forth, like they wanted
like very philosophical things. And I was like, I feel
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like that's a little heavy for the first day, do
you or.
Speaker 1 (26:31):
Like, yeah, yeah, that's very heavy. Here's here's how I
have seen mine going. I don't know that I follow
the pattern every time, but the first date is always casual.
What are our generic interests? Where do we line up
on things on just generically life like working out? Do
we both like travel? Like I'm a nerd? Are you
a nerd? Like? Very generic conversation, surface level topics. Second
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date is when I see some of that more deep
conversations start to happen. You don't necessarily intend for it, though,
like you don't ever want to pressure a deep conversation
m like if there is a natural fit for that,
and you're like, oh, we're talking about this I'd really
love to know, like how do you feel about kids?
But those are like if it's feeling that way. By
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the third date, though, is when I'm addressing my non negotiables,
like they have to love animals. If they don't, there
is no point in us continuing this. Where do we
stand on politics? Are we similar? Are we not? Where
do we stand on having a family? Those things are
very important by the third date, because by the third
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date you do know a decent amount about this person,
and that can realm It kind of depends on how
you you go about dating, but I think it falls
somewhere between the third and the fifth date. But you
don't want to get so deep into something with somebody
who is very clearly not ever going to fit a
non negotiable you have.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
Mm hmm, yeah, that's very true. Like you you're not
on the same page, Like Fay.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Why I date a guy for a month and find out,
oh we don't vibe in that way? That will be
that it suck for both of us. We vibe in
every other way, But there's a non negotiable that's there.
Why would I stick around for all of that? Why
would he? So those are kind of the realms that
I follow in m like and the deep conversation continues
on right, Like those continue to happen, but I don't
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feel like they ever happen on the first date.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
No, But what you said is like it's spot on
about just waiting for it to happen, Like don't just
out of nowhere, I mean, because that'll probably freak them out,
you know, just being like you want kids, Yeah, stuff
like that, like just let it free flow.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Yeah, Like all because I'm talking about are very like
naturally fitting into the conversation as we talk about things,
But at no point time on a first date would
ever be like where do you see yourself in five years?
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Just I do drop hints though I have noticed about myself,
Like I'll be like like when we talk about Travel'll
be like, oh yeah, like if I do ever get married,
I really want to go to a honeymoon in Africa.
Like I do drop hints of what I'm looking for,
But I'm not coming out and being like if you
and I get married, which we're going to, because like
I want marriage, this is where we're going. That's not
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it's just like dropping hints to be like how does
he respond? Does he seem like, is does it scare
him off? Because then he's not into that. So you
can have a way of doing that on first dates.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Yes, yeah, like it's subtle. Make it just subtle, but.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Not like come out right, because then you're crazy. Everything
is tactical if you think about men, and this could
be the same for guys. I know they have ways
that they handle us, right. I don't have another word
to use there, but like men are very tactical, and
so I just use those tactics against them. You know,
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a dated, a lot of guys figured it out.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
So I like your a little structure there the first, second,
third date. I think that's a good little guideline. Kind
of a little structure.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
Okay. And then the third part of this is if
it's a hinge date, when is it okay to go
over to their place? D I mean just to like
hang out have a date. I mean like I have
for second dates. I feel like the first day is
no as never you never on a first dame. You
need to make sure they're not psycho or like gonna
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kill you. I mean genuinely like that. I'm saying that
laughing because through you need to make sure they're a
normal person. But maybe, I mean, I think it depends
how you feel after the first day, if you feel
comfortable with them, if you don't feel threatened, if you
feel like they're very aware of how you feel and
your security and they're making sure you feel safe, then
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I think it's kind of just up to that m hm.
And so that's why sometimes I've said, like, second date
is fine, but I mean tends to happen more often
like fourth, fifth, I would say.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Yeah, I would say that, I would say, whatever you
feel comfortable with, but also make it very clear to
them if you do not feel like if you don't
think it's too if you think it is too soon
to get physical with them, Like I would make that
clear because a lot of guys think that when you're
inviting them over, then something's gonna happen. Like that's happened
to me, that's fair, you know. And one time one
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guy called me a tease because I invited him over
but I didn't want to do anything, and I was like,
this is literally our third date, Like I think that
that is soon to me, and I like I'm not
ready to get physical then, but he got mad and
he like stormed out because I would not, And I
was like, I guess I didn't make it clear, you know.
I guess he just thought that I was inviting him over,
that we were gonna look up, so I would just
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That's what I've learned. Yeah, in the PA, if you
could be like, you know, I want to watch a movie,
but I just don't feel like getting comfortable just I
mean getting intimate with you, just so you know.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
Yeah, No, I think that's a great pro tip because
I think I also think it's important that people are
able to whether it's guy or girl, respect boundaries. Yeah,
And clearly that man did not care crap about your boundaries,
not at all. So you're also learning that about them,
like can they respect that? Are they okay with it?
Do they cause a big deal about it? So it
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does help in that scenario too. M M.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
Yeah. I have learned definitely to like set boundaries, and
like in the past, I have not been treated that
well with guys. You know, they they have not treated
me with respect, They've talked down to me. And so
like the current guy I'm dating, I think it was
like the second date, I was like, look like, I
know what I deserve and I know what I'm worth
and if you cannot do that, if you can't be
that for me, this is not going to work. Like
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I just said that.
Speaker 1 (32:18):
I'm so proud.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
I know and I never do that. But I was like,
I have to change my ways and let them know
because I have never communicated that that I deserve respect
and I know I do. Yeah, you do, And like
he took that and was like, Okay, then I'm going
to give you what you deserve. He wasn't scared of that,
and I think the wrong guy is going to be
scared of that.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
The wrong person is always going to be afraid of
your boundaries. They're always going to be afraid of the
things that you have as non negotiables. The right person
is going to work through things with you, or going
to be willing to work through things.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Yes, yeah, so yeah, I've I'm learning a lot and
trying to be abroad that you get to golf that
thank you.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
I know, I think I'm very proud of you. I'm
very proud.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
Thanks. So yeah, don't be scared to voice yeah, but
you believe in and what you need in your boundaries,
because the right person will respect them and follow them.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
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I look at you, a little wise owl.
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